Reasons Why Relationships Don't Last

The power of positive versus negative comments

People in failing relationships look for what is wrong with others (especially their mate) instead of what is right. During a conversation where the two people held opposing views, the ones who had a good relationship said something nice to the other one five times more than they said something critical. In relationships that don't last, the ratio of good comments versus bad ones to each other was one to one.


Unrealistic expectations
Before the relationship even begins, we’re surrounded by media that perpetuates the myth of two people meeting, falling in love and living happily ever after. This makes a great story line, but leaves out the part where relationships take work, time and effort to succeed.

Accepting responsibility to be in a committed relationship

When one or both people don't take responsibility for their commitment and allow themselves to be attracted to others, they are in trouble. Some people feel there is nothing wrong with a little "harmless" flirtation. On the contrary, research shows that in every close conversation, there is the possibility of secreting oxytocin (a hormonal chemical) that creates a bond. These interactions can make people feel like they are falling in love. But people can consciously choose not to cross a boundary when they feel even slightly attracted to someone else. They can change their focus. They do not have to be a victim of this attraction.

Forgiveness

There is no "perfect" relationship and even the best ones will have some ups and downs, but it is how couples ride those rough times that determines if the relationship succeeds. People who are good at relating will try to repair any damage that is done in their partnership. They will offer apologies and make gestures to right what has caused hurt.

Being defensive
This may be one of the hardest habits to break. None of us like being criticized. From the time we’re kids, our instinct is to come up with excuses or deny. In a mature and successful relationship, criticism should be constructive and should be listened to in the same manner.

Attitude

Understanding that you need to teach others how to treat you in order to get your needs met will move you from the victim column into the winning column. There are, however, some attitudes that indicate a relationship will break up. The kinds of behavior that will erode closeness are contempt, criticism, defensiveness, and stonewalling.

A failure to communicate
Any relationship whether it's romantic, platonic or work-based needs communication. If you don’t tell each other what’s going on, what you’re thinking, how you’re feeling or what you expect, the other person is inevitably going to disappoint you. Open communication, even if it’s sometimes unpleasant, ensures you both know what your partner wants and needs.


Lack of trust
Some argue this is the biggest issue. After 20 years of studying marriages, scientist John Gottman argues that when trust dies, relationships fail. In The Science of Trust, he argues that if negative events are not fully processed, we fill in the information gaps with our own ideas. If we don’t trust our partner, the motives and actions we attribute to them are coloured with a negativity that grows eroding trust further.

Unwillingness to compromise
This can also be seen as the desire to always be right. In some people it comes out as always being certain that their opinion is right. However expressed, your partner’s not going to appreciate always doing things your way. For a relationship to succeed, you’ve got to have the ability to adapt to another point of view.

Selfishness

It takes two to tango, you can’t always lead, and yours aren’t the only needs to be met.



Not making time
Where you spend your time shows your priorities. If you’re always working late, your partner will get the message that work is more important. Make an effort for your partner and your relationship, or you may risk losing them. 

Why relationships don't last is profound but simple. You need two people who treat each other with love, affection, respect, and support, and have a commitment to each other. You deserve a love that lasts--so think about the above.

How to Make Your Relationships Work

Love yourself. The love your boyfriend or girlfriend gives you will never be a substitute for your own self-esteem. Love yourself, and others will find it easy to love you, too. Don’t undermine yourself or be overly critical. Being relaxed and fun will make both you and your partner the happiest you can be.

Trust your partner. A lack of trust will doom any and every relationship. Be on the lookout for controlling behavior, and learn to stop it before it starts. If something is bothering you, you need to be able to talk to your lover about it rather than let it eat away at you. Just don’t assume the worst every time you aren’t certain what is going on, and you’ll find that it probably was never the case anyway.

Think like a couple. If you and your significant other really want to spend the rest of your lives together, you need to be an effective team. Don’t be selfish, but also don’t make yourself miserable so that your lover will be happy. The two of you are in this together! Learn to think in ways that benefit you as a couple, rather than just one of you individually.

Listen always. Be open to what your partner says to you, even if it’s critical and even if you disagree initially. Try to gain flexibility and perspective in your life. There’s a difference between a knee-jerk response and a well-thought-out position, and your relationships will improve the more open you are!

Give them space. If your boyfriend or girlfriend likes to do something that you don’t enjoy, just spend that time away from them working on your own hobby. Smothering your partner with your presence will only drive them further away from you. Even though you’re in love, you can lead separate, adult lives.

Communicate! We’ve all heard this a million times from every piece of dating advice ever given, but the reason it’s still said so often is because it doesn’t always sink in. The crucial role that open communication plays in a relationship cannot possibly be overstated. Always be honest, even if the implications are painful. Your life will ultimately be happier because of it.

Be proactive. If your relationship has issues, the last thing you want to do is sit around and wait for somebody else to solve them. If you feel strongly that it is mostly your partner’s fault, then that is a problem in and of itself. If you want your partner to express affection to you, go and express affection to them first. The power is always in your hands to do something meaningful.

How to Know When a Relationship is Over

The end of a relationship is a hard moment for anyone. Sadly, however, it is something that the majority of us are going to have to endure before we find the right partner to settle down with. So understanding how to know when a relationship is over can make the end of a relationship much easier to handle. Unfortunately not every person that we decide to date is the right one for us; part of finding the right person is experimenting. We usually have to experience a few different relationships to know that we’ve finally met the right person.

It’s natural to have second thoughts about a relationship and below are some of the more common signs that you probably aren’t compatible for each other in the long term.

Ultimately you will normally have a gut feeling yourself when you feel that a relationship might be over. There are many tell tale signs a relationship is ending and although you may not be at the stage of having a gut feeling, it’s worth reviewing the points we’ve listed below. If you recognise a couple then perhaps the alarm bells should start ringing.

You don’t have much in common: One of the common failures of many relationships is that the two people involved are attracted by shallow qualities. It is very easy to fall for the best looking boy or girl in the class, however looks are not something you can build a relationship on in the long run. If you are finding that you do not have anything in common with your partner then it is probably time to begin rethinking the relationship. Your partner should make you laugh and should share some common interests with you. If you are both interested in completely different things and as a result you don’t particularly enjoy spending time with one another it may be time to accept the relationship is over.

Your partner has started to become very distant: When one person in the relationship starts to act distantly, it is sometimes a sign that they are no longer interested in the relationship. Of course there are many other reasons why a partner might become distant but the harsh reality is that they may simply no longer wish to be with you. If a partner stops wanting to speak to you on the phone, starts to blow off your dates and generally seems indifferent towards you then there is probably a good chance the relationship is coming to an end. Even if they still want to be with you, do you really want to be with someone who treats you like that?

The spark has gone: A spark in a relationship is a very important factor: The spark is what keeps you attracted to each other, what distinguishes you from just being friends and what keeps the relationship exciting. It is a sad fact that sometimes relationships just lose this spark and you fall into a rut. When the spark goes it is important to try and get it back. Make sure you discuss your worries with your partner and do what you can to fix it. Ultimately, however, if you can’t get that spark back then it could be a compelling reason to end the relationship and look elsewhere. Your partner should keep you feeling exciting and attractive and not just a friend. As soon as you start to fall into the trap of acting like friends and not being romantic it can sometimes spell the end of a relationship.

Constant arguing: Arguing is a very natural part of a relationship: Couples have to argue and it is sometimes healthy to get a problem off your chest. However, constant arguing can spell the downfall of any relationship. Some people are just naturally argumentative and a lot of successful couples argue frequently, however if one day out of the blue you suddenly begin arguing, it could mean that you have both out grown each other. It is important to work out what you want in a relationship; if you don’t mind arguing and you are quite an argumentative person then perhaps this is an acceptable part of the relationship. If, however, you don’t want to argue but you seem to be bickering endlessly then you need to rethink whether you are the right people for each other. Sometimes two individuals just aren’t compatible despite the early sparks of excitement. 

You are no longer attracted to them: Though this sounds like a harsh point it is valid nonetheless. In order for a relationship to work, you have to be attracted to your partner. The mistake many people make is thinking that this is only relies on looks. You should be attracted to your partners’ personality, looks and everything else about them. Sometimes you can find that you are no longer attracted to your partner because throughout the time you have known them they have changed. This is a very clear sign that the relationship is actually over and is one of the most common causes of breakups. As we get older, we change a great deal. Sometimes the person we are with does not change with us and we start to find we no longer have much in common. It is a harsh reality but you shouldn’t hold on to something that is no longer there.

Ending a relationship is not a decision that should be taken lightly. Try not to break up with your partner on the spur of the moment or because of other issues in your life that are getting you down. Make sure you sleep on big decisions and think rationally before acting.

The Reasons Why Most Women are Sexually Frustrated

In my research only 65% of women have had an orgasm and only 35% of women have had a vaginal orgasm in intercourse. For women it is the relationship that matters the most, how does she feel about him, what does she think about him, did she have respect for him, did he push those buttons inside of her that made her a sexual being. As for men you have to get rid of those negative beliefs you have about women, you need to watch carefully and enjoy what you are doing with your woman.

Women require certain qualities from a man in a relationship, the first one is to feel appreciated. A woman needs to feel unique and special like no other woman she knows, she needs to know she is supported by her man. The second quality a woman requires to feel is sexy, natural, full of love. The third quality is a woman needs to be emotionally connected to her man meaning a communication she shares only with her man and no one else and the fourth trait is to have mind blowing sex, yes she needs to have passionate sex, she needs to be seduced, she needs to be tease, she needs to experience new fantasies and roles being satisfied over and over again.

You have to remember a woman has so many “things” to do, so many responsibilities during the week such as trying to make a living, supporting her family or her friends, trying to get an education and more and all a woman wants to do when it comes to a Friday or Saturday night is spend time with her man and for him to engage her and make her feel like a woman. She wants to be lead by her man and she wants to be able to let go and have trust that her man is going to take care of her. When a woman is with her man she wants to be able to feel her man’s power and masculinity.

Majority of men look at women like they are a piece of meat and as they do this they give women all the power in the relationship or interaction, women know they have control over these men because all they want is a sex and this is what frustrates women. What ever happened to these days of men being men and triggering those emotions inside of her. A man needs to be personally powerful, take responsibility for himself and he needs to know he has the power within him to give a woman a mind blowing experience.

Being a man you need to come out from the mindset that you don’t need to have a woman in your life, you like having a woman in your life but you don’t need to have one. This will stop you from being needy, clingy and acting like a wuss. Women will only have respect for you as a man if you have respect for yourself. When a woman is with a man that is “unique” and different and he makes her feel like a woman, in turn he will feel like a man.

A woman has to trust you and respect you for her to be able to open up to you and let go. They say the greatest sex organ is the brain which is especially true for women, a woman needs to feel a number of emotions and feelings and it is your role to lead her there as her man.

Sex is a major part of a woman’s life and sex will remind a woman she is alive....Please don't get me wrong here, okay?  Women are very sexual beings but they do not admit it and for a woman to be able to express her sexuality is extremely powerful. Women want to feel respected, intelligent, driven and accomplished in everyday life but when a woman is with her man she wants to be able to surrender to him.

There are many more but these are what i can come up with after researching....Thanks for those of you who helped me to carry this piece of work out... Muahh!!

Ways To Stay Motivated In All You Do

It is hardly a secret that the key to successfully accomplishing one goal after another is staying motivated. There are, of course, tasks which you may not like at all, yet you find motivation to complete even them because you recognize how each particular task serves a greater goal.

  How exactly do some of us manage to stay motivated most of the time? Here are just a few ideas you can try:

1) Find the Good Reasons

Anything you do, no matter how simple, has a number of good reasons behind it. Not all the tasks have the good reasons to do them seen at first sight, but if you take just a few moments to analyse them, you will easily spot something good. We also have many tasks which don’t need any reasoning at all – we’ve been doing them for so long that they feel natural.

But if you’re ever stuck with some task you hate and there seems to be no motivation to complete it whatsoever, here’s what you need to do: find your good reasons. They may not be obvious, but stay at it until you see some, as this will bring your motivation back and will help you finish the task.


Some ideas for what a good reason can be:
A) a material reward – quite often, you will get paid for doing something you normally don’t like doing at all

B) personal gain – you will learn something new or will perhaps improve yourself in a certain way

C) a feeling of accomplishment – at least you’ll be able to walk away feeling great about finding the motivation and courage to complete such a tedious task

D) a step closer to your bigger goal – even the biggest accomplishments in history have started small and relied on simple and far less pleasant tasks than you might be working on. Every task you complete brings you closer to the ultimate goal, and acknowledging this always feels good.

2) Make it fun

When it comes to motivation, attitude is everything. Different people may have completely opposite feelings towards the same task: some will hate it, others will love it. Why do you think this happens? It’s simple: some of us find ways to make any task interesting and fun to do!

Take sports for example. Visiting your local gym daily for a half-an-hour workout sounds rather boring to many of us. Yet many others love the idea! They like exercising not only because they recognize the good reasons behind it, but simply because it’s fun! At certain time of their daily schedule, they find going to gym to be the best thing to do, simply because nothing else will fit their time and lifestyle so perfectly.

Depending on how you look at it, you can have fun doing just about anything! Just look for ways of having fun, and you’ll find them!

A simple approach is to start working on any task from asking yourself a few questions:
i) How can I enjoy this task?
ii) What can I do to make this task fun for myself and possibly for others?
iii) How can I make this work the best part of my day?

The answers will pop up momentarily, as long as you learn to have the definite expectation of any task being potentially enjoyable.

Some of you will probably think of a thing or two which are valid exceptions from this statement, like something you always hate doing, no matter how hard you try making it fun. I don’t want to argue – you’re probably right, and that’s why I don’t claim everything to be fun. However, most tasks have a great potential of being enjoyable, and so looking for ways to have fun while working is definitely a good habit to acquire.

3) Take different approach

When something doesn’t feel right, it’s always a good time to take a moment and look at the whole task looking for a different approach.

You may be doing everything correctly and most efficiently, but such an approach isn’t necessarily the most motivating one. Quite often you can find a number of obvious tweaks to your current approach which will both change your experience and open up new possibilities.

That’s why saying “one way or another” is so common: if you really want to accomplish your goal, there is always a away. And most likely, there’s more than one way. If a certain approach doesn’t work for you, find another one, and keep trying until you find the one which will both keep you motivated and get you the desired results.
Some people think that trying a different approach means giving up. They take pride in being really stubborn and refusing to try any other options on their way towards the goal. My opinion on this is that the power of focus is great, but you should be focusing on your goal, and not limiting your options by focusing on just one way to accomplish it it. Read John 8:32

4) Recognize your progress

Everything you may be working on can be easily split into smaller parts and stages. For most goals, it is quite natural to split the process of accomplishing them into smaller tasks and milestones. There are a few reasons behind doing this, and one of them is tracking your progress.

We track our progress automatically with most activities. But to stay motivated, you need to recognize your progress, not merely track it.

Here’s how tracking and recognizing your progress is different: tracking is merely taking a note of having reached a certain stage in your process. Recognizing is taking time to look at a bigger picture and realize where exactly you are, and how much more you have left to do.

For example, if you’re going to read a book, always start by going through the contents table. Getting familiar with chapter titles and memorizing their total number will make it easier for you to recognize your progress as you read. Confirming how many pages your book has before starting it is also a good idea.

You see, reading any book you will be automatically looking at page numbers and chapter titles, but without knowing the total number of pages this information will have little meaning.

Somehow, it is in a human nature to always want things to happen at once. Even though we split complex tasks into simpler actions, we don’t quite feel the satisfaction until all is done and the task is fully complete. For many scenarios though, the task is so vast that such an approach will drain all the motivation out of you long before you have a chance to reach your goal. That’s why it is important to always take small steps and recognize the positive different and progress made.

5) Reward Yourself

This is a trick everyone likes: rewarding yourself is always pleasant. I’m happy to confirm that this is also one of the easiest and at the same time most powerful ways to stay motivated!

Feeling down about doing something? Dread the idea of working on some task? Hate the whole idea of working? You’re not alone in that, I’m telling you!

Right from the beginning, agree on some deliverables which will justify yourself getting rewarded. As soon as you get one of the agreed results, take time to reward yourself in some way.
For some tasks, just taking a break and relaxing for a few minutes will do. For others, you may want to get a fresh cup of coffee and even treat yourself to a dessert. For even bigger and more demanding tasks, you may want to reward yourself by doing something even more enjoyable, like going to a cinema or taking a trip to some place nice, or even buying yourself something.

Your progress may not seem to others like anything worth celebrating – but take time and do it anyway! It is your task and your reward, so any ways to stay motivated are good. The more you reward yourself for the honestly made progress, the more motivated you will feel about reaching new milestones, thus finally accomplishing your goal.

Mix and match

Now that you have these five ways of staying motivated, it is a good moment to give you the key to them all: mix and match! Pick one of the advices and apply it to your situation. If it doesn’t work, or if you simply want to get even more motivation, try another advice right way. Mix different approaches and match them to your task for best results.

Just think about it: finding good reasons to work on your task is bound to help you feel a bit better. Identifying ways to make it fun will help you enjoy the task even more. Finally, if you then plan a few points for easier tracking of your progress and on top of that agree on rewarding yourself as you go – this will make you feel most motivated about anything you have to work through. GOOD LUCK!!

What to know about your partner before marriage.

Marriage, much like the rest of life, is a journey. You will never see the complete picture until you are at the end of the road and can look back with clear vision. This element of mystery is what makes marriage interesting and exciting. Growing and changing in your relationship with another person can be both fulfilling and rewarding. . . if you choose the right person.

If statistics are any indication, many of us have some level of difficulty choosing that right person. Divorce has become so commonplace now as to almost be expected. In some circles, first marriages are laughingly referred to as "starter marriages." It's almost as if people are starting to expect to change and grow and fall out of love with their partner after a certain time period and move on to form other relationships.



If you would rather not have that happen to you, there are several critical details you should know about your prospective spouse, their life, their past and their goals for the future before legalizing your commitment.


1) How much do you have in common? You don't want to be carbon copies of each other, but you should be able to recognize the critical differences between you and come to terms with how you will deal with them. Do you hold similar religious beliefs? If not, can you exist together in a parallel religious world? Will one of you be willing to change for the other? Does the difference even matter very much to either one of you? What will you do if and when children come along?

2) Speaking of children, do you both have the same expectations about family size? If one of you wants to start having children right away and the other is more interested in pursuing career goals (and perhaps skipping the child rearing part of marriage all together) you will eventually reach a point of disillusionment or resignation; neither of which will bode well for your future marriage.

3) Are there any secrets?  It's best to come clean upfront about messy past relationships (children with another partner, a past romance with a mentally disturbed person) before the past comes back to haunt you.  Does one of you have large, outstanding debts, bankruptcies or a lousy credit rating?  These problems will resurface, often at the most inconvenient time.

4) Have you met your partner's family? Yes, you are marrying your partner and not their uncle, parents, cousins or siblings, but it's amazing what you will learn from meeting the in-laws and watching your partner interact with people in the family. Some of your partner's best and worst traits will be revealed by the people who know them best.

5) Where do you expect to be on the road of life in five years? Ten years? Twenty years? Changes do occur and the unexpected is bound to happen, but it helps to know you share the same basic goals as your prospective spouse. If you want to retire young and live out the remainder of your life on a beach somewhere and your partner wants to work forty years and travel the world in a Winnebago, you have some talking to do.

Never enter into marriage because your mother wants you to, you're ready to settle down (with anyone) and have children or just because you think it's time. Anytime the decision doesn't feel right, take that as a sign to step back and spend more time evaluating the relationship before moving forward.

15 Ways To Deal With Stress

Here comes the 15 tips to help you deal with stress.

1.Mind your words - Change words such as “I have to” to “I choose to.” Put yourself back in control and remove negative words such as “have to” will help you to reduce the pressure and stress level. Even the worst tasks seem better when we choose to do it instead of being forced into doing it.

2. Learn to say no - Taking up too many tasks and try to make yourself slog through a list that even superman will say no to just isn’t worth it. Learn to say no to tasks that can be done better by others and decline assisting in other tasks when you are occupied by tasks that you have not completed yet.

3. Look at the bright side - Don’t keep dwelling on how bad things are going to be. Look at the bright side of life. Dwelling in negativity will only sap your energy and demoralize you. Focus on the good things you can think of your tasks, like recognition or the sense of achievement when you completed your task.

4. Breathe deeply - Take a minute off from your work, close your eyes and breathe deeply. Do a few counts of deep breathing and see your stress level reduced almost immediately.

5. Take a walk – Get out of your chair and take a walk in a nearby garden or somewhere close to nature. Forget about your work for a moment and enjoy the nature.

6. Set realistic goals – Set goals that are able to stretch you but not enough to burn you up. Setting goals should be able to challenge you, just make sure you don’t pile unnecessary stress on yourself with unrealistic goals.

7. Ask for help – Delegate, outsource or ask a fellow colleague for help. 2 brains are better than 1 and 3 brains are better than 2. If you are running a business, it doesn’t make sense if you are running everything yourself. Outsource the non core tasks to others that have the specialize skills to do it even better than you.

8. Celebrate – Celebrate your mini milestones that you reached. Once you completed an important task, take a break from it and do a mini celebration and have a small reward for yourself. You will be more refreshed and motivated to do your next task.

9. Focus – Don’t multi task and try to do multiple things at the same time. It is unnecessary burden and most probably multi tasking doesn’t help in producing quality tasks.

10. Have a toy - Stress balls are manufactured for a reason. Yes, reducing stress! Put them at your work desk and play with them when you need it. Playing with it help to reduce anxiety and it is an excellent outlet to let go of negative energy that you had stored up.

11. Sleep – Do not sacrifice sleep to churn out more work. What is worst than working with someone who is lacking in sleep and have a bad temper. Sacrificing sleep just aggravate your stress level. Get adequate shut eye and allow your body to work in optimal condition.

12. Exercise – Stop your work and do some exercises. It help to reduce your stress remarkably when you are exercising and it helps to move your focus off your work.

13. Don’t sweat the small stuff – Sometimes a little screw up is fine and we need do not need to be stressed over it. Just let it go and try to work it out.

14. Don’t be extreme – Don’t use words like “always” or “every time.”Extreme words will cause extreme reactions that do not help the situation and it just make the matter worst. “He screw it up every time” is an example of an extreme reaction. Slow down and think, did he really screw up every time? Probably no.

15. Laugh – Too stressed up in life? Catch a comedy and laugh your heart out. Can you look at the right and the left at the same time? That is the same as being stressful while laughing at the same time. So laugh more and allow your laughter to overcome stress.

When you are stressed up, just try to apply some of these tips to help bring down your stress level. Thanks for reading and have a good time relaxing!

Healthy Relationship Tips.

This is a fun and useful topic, if you have any ideas of your own please do comment under this for others to read. So here we go!

Have enough self respect to never be used, abused or mistreated.Leave any relationship immediately and never look back if this is happening.
Start everyday fresh. If at all possible deal with problems in the day in which they occur, once dealt with, let it go. Keeping score is bad news. Try not to let the sun set on your anger or issues.
Space. Everybody needs their space, have interests outside of each other. Firstly this gives you space, secondly it give you fresh material to talk about. If you are together all the time, pretty soon you are going to run out of new conversation.

Maintain old activities. Keep doing what made you fall in love. Avoid complacency. If you liked going out, don’t stop when you get comfortable with somebody.
Lighten up. Don’t be to serious about everything, have some fun, enjoy life, people will enjoy your company more.
Communicate. Most important, learn to speak your mind, but do learn to do it in a considerate, empathetic way. Don’t bottle things up, this is a recipe for disaster.
Be Kind. Pretty basic.
Say you are sorry. It’s amazing the power an authentic apology carries. It's not that hard once you get use to it!
Turn the TV off. Best thing on the TV is the off button.
Get away together as often as possible. Getting away from routine daily life can be great for a relationship.
Take trips away individually. Give the other person the gift of missing you, it’s a fantastic gift. It’s good to miss each other from time to time, brings back a sense of appreciation.
No jealousy, ever. Jealousy is completely toxic to a relationship. If you can’t trust, your with the wrong person or just not ready for a relationship. Jealousy is bad, bad, bad.
Compliments. Everyone one loves a compliment, be generous with them so long as you are sincere.
Surprise. Throw a surprise into the equation from time to time. It keeps it lively and interesting.
Lastly, maintain your individuality. Try to avoid losing your own identity. Too often in a relationship we forget ourselves and start to take on the identity of the other person, this is a mistake really.
Good luck and I hope they are helpful.

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Beyoncé Confirms Pregnancy On VMA Red Carpet

After years of denying endless pregnancy rumors, Beyonce  finally has some good news to share.
"The single ladies" singer is pregnant.

  Beyonce stepped out at the Video Music Awards on Sunday 28th August 2011 holding her belly, wearing a long red dress, quite the opposite of her normal midriff-barring stage costume. When addressing photographers on red carpet, Beyonce said, "I have a surprise"!
 Beyonce also acknowledge that she was with a child during her performance of "Love On Top." During the intro of the song she said she wanted the audience to "feel the love that's growing inside of me" And after she finished singing the song, she dropped her microphone, popped opened her purple sequined tuxedo jacket, poked out her stomach, then rubbed it and smiled. Onlookers, Jay-Z and Kanye jumped up and down in excitement.
Congrats to Queen B and Jay-Z :)

What Your Jeans Say About You (According to Guys!)

When I asked a few guys what these jeans said about they ladies wearing them, their reactions ranged from dropped jaws to total confusion. Regardless of your taste in jeans, be it wide leg, skinny or straight leg- one thing is clear: Guys love it when the real You is easy to see. Here comes on what they said about these jeans....

 This jean's look says, "I like to party...around bleach" Luke 25

 Hip, edge jeans make him think you're too cool for school. 

"Black shirt, blackberry, black jeans....there is no taking it lightly with her". Josh 32

 Cool relax-fit jeans = Cool, laid back girl.

"She looks easygoing, like she'd be down to grab a coffee with me in the afternoon". Emma 27

 You can't go wrong with a classic Blue Jeans.

"Simple and elegant". Steve 26

 Not-too-tight skinny jeans make for the perfect date outfit.

"She looks causal and comfortable, like we should cuddle on the couch...with a fire...In the fall and maybe Celine Don or Bon Iver playing in the background". Tony 24

 Logo in your face denim styles turn him off.

"blinded by the white, she'd rather wear a brand name than something that looks good". Alex 30

 Attention-getting ripped jeans are the denim equivalent of a pick up line.

"She's a free spirit, teasing you with  little glimpses of skin and letting you know she's down to party". Nick 28

 Cropped, edgy jeans give off a playful vibe.

"She's sporty, with  a splash of spunk". Jim 34

 Red jeans catch- and  keep- his attention.

"love this quirky girl, I think i have a crush already- can you introduce me?". Andy 23

 70's Jeans send a groovy message.

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Irene downgraded to tropical storm as it slams NYC

Driving wind and rain lash the Coney Island boardwalk in New York as Irene came closer to the area Sunday , August 28/2011. Irene hit Coney Island with 65-mph winds, making it now a tropical storm. The storm pushed 3 1/2 foot surge of water into New York harbor, and forecasters said the peak could be twice as tall later in the morning.

Take Off Your Mask!!

It seems that many women sometimes struggle to be real. We act one way on the outside, when really, on the inside, we are someone else. Because we have weaknesses, faults, or fears-things about ourselves that we think make us less than perfect or less likable or desirable, we’d rather hide from other people.

  Over time, we devise masks in order to more effectively hide these blemishes from others. Some of us devise quite an intricate system of masks to cover up, hide or give others a different perception of who we really are. In fact, we’ve become so comfortable wearing these masks that we even forget we have them on.

  Our pride, shame, or fear keeps us from taking off our masks and revealing our true selves to others, even those we love. The thought of shedding the layers of deception and defense and standing expose to the world, so everyone can see our faults, weaknesses, or fears—is simply too much to bear.

  The need to be accepted and liked is born in all of us. This desire is so strong in us that we do almost anything to achieve it. In fact, when we were children, if we felt that we were not being loved or accept the way we were, we would change. We would completely reinvent ourselves. We would put on a mask or, like a chameleon, change our outer appearance and attitudes so we could fit in better with our surroundings. But inside that chameleon stays the same — it can’t change what it is. The same is true of women… we can change the outside, but no matter how many masks we wear, we can’t change who we really are deep down inside.

   The danger of wearing these masks, of course, is that it misrepresents us. What other people see is a lie. It’s not who we are… who we were born to be. By the time we reach adulthood, we’ve had years of experience in this type of role-playing and covering up. Our masks have become as comfortable as an old pair of slippers, and we’ve lost touch with who we really are. We’ve spent so many years hiding that we’ve forgotten those things about ourselves that make us different and special.

   What a shame! What a waste! Each of us---you, me, and every woman—is uniquely created by a loving father who rejoices in our individuality. In fact, those distinctive things about us, not our “sameness” make us special to Him.

   The little girl with freckles, the young lady with the dimples, the beloved gray-headed grandmother with the sweet smile---they all stand out. . .they’re special! And you’re special too!

  Sure, we all have fears and weaknesses. We’re all less than perfect and wish we were better. But you need to know that God loves you just the way you are right now, and His love for you will never diminish. But wait! There’s even more good news. Second Corinthians 3:18 says that “all of us, as with unveiled face, [because we] continued to behold [in the word of God] as in a mirror the glory of the lord, are constantly being transfigured into His very own image in ever increasing splendor and from one degree of glory to another.”

  This means that when you believe and cooperate with God’s good plan for your life, He will help you to let down the defenses you’ve had up for so long. God created you, and He knows your fears and weaknesses. He knows how badly you want to fit in…to hide your faults and mistakes, but His love is powerful enough to reach beyond all those things and touch your soul. Welcome His touch; feel His acceptance. Trust Him enough to take off your mask and look into the mirror of His word—there you will find that you are being changed, little by little, into the very image of your lord!

Be Confident

Confidence is a knowing inside that despite what is happening outside, everything is going to be alright because God is d scene, & when He is present nothing is impossible.