Thursday, 30 August 2012

15 Ways To Keep Relationship Working

1) Love Each Other

2) Don't Lie

3) Keep Communication Open

4) Stay Sweet 

5) When You Get Hurt Just forgive and Forget

6) Never Talk About Break- Ups

7) Never Say It's Okay Even When It's Not

8) Forget About "Pride"

9) Don't Compare Your Past With Your Present

10) Don't Talk About Your Stupid Ex's


11) Give And Take Process 

12) Beware Of His/Her Feelings

13) If You Say Sorry Mean It

14) When You Had A Fight, Don't Let The Day Pass

15) Don't Be the Perfect One, Be The Right One

Monday, 20 August 2012

Top 23 Things That Men Do Which Turn Women Off

There are times men wonder why they can't a get second date, keep a girlfriend, or get a woman's phone number. There are things women are willing to put up with, but they do have their limits. Below are 23 humorous and gross things men do to turn women off.



#1 Fur coats

It's hard to believe that men still wear fur coats. Hip Hop celebrities can barely pull this look off. Don't try it at home. If you insist on wearing a fur coat when you pick up your date, don't be surprised when she slams the door in your face without saying a word.




#2 Saggy jeans

Women don't want to see your underwear or boxers. Saggy jeans are sloppy and played out. Get a belt.




#3 Ordering fruity beverages.

If you're a couple on a tropical island and you ordered a pina colada that's fine. Ordering a seabreeze while on a first date might raise some eyebrows. Perception is key. Ordering fruity drinks gives the impression that you are wimpy and not enough of a man. After all, sissy boys can't handle their liquor. Order a jack and coke and man up.



#4 Gawking at every woman on the street.

Yes, we know men are wired to do it. However, you don't have to do it every two blocks. Do this too often and your date will think you're a dog. Why bother dating a man if you or any other woman will never be enough for him? Women cut their losses as soon as they see this warning sign. If you want a woman to stick around, pull yourself together and get your libido under control.





#5 Being too friendly with the waitress.

Women don't mind you being nice to a waitress, but giving too much attention might give us the wrong idea, especially on the first date. Be friendly just don't over do it.




#6 Being rude to a waitress.

Okay, your steak is too salty. That is no reason to cuss out the waitress. She didn't cook it. Outlandish behavior like this will definitely turn a woman off. It also gives the impression that you have a short fuse. Keep your cool over little things.




#7 Acting like Mr. Know-It-All.

There is nothing worse than talking to a man who thinks he is the smartest person in the room. Women like smart men, but not know-it-alls who dominate the conversation with his vast so-called knowledge. Open your mind to let other opinions and theories flow.




#8 Being a big fan of a boy band.

It's okay to like music by a boy band. What is not okay is to be obsessed with them. For instance, A friend of mine met a guy a few years ago. They dated for a couple of weeks. He was nice and a pretty too. One night, She went to his apartment. He cut on the light and she was accosted with N Sync posters. The posters were all over his living room and hallway walls. Then, he had the nerve to take her on a tour of his place. When he opened the bedroom door N Sync posters were everywhere. That wasn't the worst of it. He had a poster of Joey Fatone, member of N Sync, taped on the ceiling above his bed. To make a long story short they broke up.




#9 Being inconsiderate.

No matter how independent women have become they still like it when men open the door for them. The one thing I always hear on bad date stories from my friends is how he wouldn't open the door for her. Women still like it when you bring them flowers. You don't have to spend hundreds of dollars. You can get a cheap bouquet of flowers at Wal-Mart for $10.99. Women love the gesture. Be a gentleman. Say thank you and don't use foul language.




#10 Lying

A lot of guys in the world have made lying a second language and a sport. Women still hate it. If you don't want to see us anymore just say it. If you don't want to go to the opera because you want to hang out with the boys, just say it. You think women will get mad over the truth. It's nothing compared to how mad we'll get when we find out you are a consistent liar. Granted, some women put up with it for a while, but it gets old.






#11 Video game obsession.

There is nothing wrong with a grown man playing video games. Women play video games, too. However, it is different when it becomes an obsession. I had a friend who dated a guy who was video game obsessed. If that wasn't bad enough, his friends were video game obsessed. No matter what time of the day she would go over to her boyfriend's apartment him and his friends were playing video games. If there weren't a pack of gamers at the apartment he would be playing by himself. It got to the point that they couldn't go anywhere together because he was busy playing video games. After three months of this, she got fed-up and stopped seeing him. The real shock is that this clueless man couldn't understand why she broke up with him. She flat out told him it was because he became too obsessed with video games. He couldn't understand what she meant.

Don't let video games control you. It is okay as something different to do, but don't take it to far. Some women won't date guys who play video games. They get the impression that the guy is immature.




#12 Saying something stupid.

Considering the fact that I've seen this "don't" rule all over television I can't believe it is still a problem. Guys don't say anything stupid. Asking if a woman has PMS, asking what kind of cartoons do we like, and asking about a woman's sexual past are all examples of saying something stupid.




#13 Not kissing a woman enough.

Women like being kissed. We can't help it. We understand that men are not always big with the PDAs, but you need to kiss us at the appropriate time. Women like being kissed during a romantic evening at home and while having sex. Some of my male friends have told me they don't like kissing a woman too much because it's too personal. Well getting into a woman's pants is personal....., but that doesn't stop you from having sex, right?





#14 Jealousy

I am going to let the secret out. Sometimes women like it when men get jealous. The narrowing of your eyes and the possessive way you put your arm around us is just cute. Since, men don't always express how they feel about the woman in his life we have to latch on to the non-verbal things you say. This action says she's with me, I want you, and I am not sharing you.

However, we don't like it when jealousy goes overboard. The last thing a woman wants to see is a bar room brawl because her boyfriend didn't like the way some drunk guy was looking at her. Women hate it when you are overly jealous of their guy friends. I have a friend whose husband was so obsessively jealous about her that he got mad one time because she crossed her legs in public. He said, "Un-cross your legs! I don't want everyone to see what I got!" Chill, dude. Jealousy makes you look like an uncontrolled monster.




#15 Sloppy drunkenness
It is bad taste to get smashed on a date, especially a first date. What was supposed to be a lovely evening is now a babysitting job for your date. Do this and you definitely won't get a second date. Have a minimum of two drinks. If you can't hold your liquor, then drink water.




#16 Using dumb pick up lines.

Honestly guys, would you go out with a woman who said, "Roses are red, violets are blue. I'm really horny let's go and screw." No? Then, why do you expect women to go out with you when you say it? For the love of Pete, let go of the stinking pick up lines. They don't get you a date or a woman's phone number. However, they might work to get a drink or a slap in the face. If you like us, then approach us like you have some sense. Try this instead, "Hi, how are you? My name is (insert name). What's yours?"





#17 Asking for sex on the first introduction.
Women know men like sex, but let us get comfortable before you proposition us. Coming off as a horny toad is a REAL TURN OFF.



#18 Constantly talking about your ex.

This has been mentioned so many times on television and in love advice columns that it's hard to believe it is still an issue. Stop talking about your ex. Women don't want to hear you go on and on about your ex-girlfriend or ex-wife.You will talk yourself right out of something good.






#19 Dirty fingernails

Having dirty fingernails is a real turn off to women. Women don't want you rubbing your hands through their hair with those dirty things. We rather see a man get a manicure, than to see a man with dirty nasty fingernails. Too macho to get a manicure? Buy a nail brush, it only cost three dollars.




#20 Asking, "Why are you single?"

When I was in middle school, my teacher told me there was no such thing as a stupid question. Well, she was wrong. This question is so stupid and insulting that it is in a class by itself. Fellas, don't ask this, period. This question is so stupid that I'm not going to type anything else about it.




#21 Having an un-kept bathroom.

If you are inviting a woman over, clean your bathroom. Women don't expect to see your bathroom decked out Martha Stewart style, but we do expect it be clean. Examples of having a nasty bathroom are dirty towels in the floor, no toilet paper on the roll, stained toilet seat, toothpaste on the mirror, no hand soap, no hand towels, and a soap scum shower curtain.




#22 Hocking loogies and launching snot rockets.

What in the blue h#ll is wrong with men who do this? This is not attractive. This is nasty, gross, despicable, and stomach turning. Did I mention nasty? Bad enough, that you hock loogies, now you've come up with snot rockets. For the love of Ray J, Pete, God, and everything holy take a Claritin and use a tissue. D#mn!




#23 Man boobs

Ewww and double ewww. No woman wants to date a man with breasts, I'm sorry. When women see men with bigger breast than them it freaks and grosses them out. Most women don't mind men being overweight, but we draw the line at man boobs. Do you want your woman going to Victoria's Secret to buy you a bra? Or do you want her to buy something for herself that you will hopefully see? Man boobs are so grotesque that some women are willing to forgive men who've had plastic surgery to have them removed. Don't want surgery? Do some push-ups or some other type of chest exercises; just get rid of those things!


Look, women don't expect men to be perfect. All of us have baggage and habits. However, lets not get carried away. The 23 offenses mentioned in this are guaranteed to keep a man lonely. Do leave your comment and share it.... THANKS :)

Friday, 3 August 2012

How To Get The Spark Back In Your Dying Relationship



I’m sure there once was a time when you could not get enough of your significant other. I mean, that’s why you started dating them in the first place right? There was something that drew you together. Over time things change, I’m sure you still love your significant other but the butterflies are no longer there, where did they go? Somewhere along the way you both were at a stage that you just became happy with, you were comfortable there. Maybe now, you’re too comfortable? Being too comfortable can become a little boring, same routine day in and day out. You do the same things, you go to the same places, and you may even say the same things to each other day after day. No wonder the thrill is gone!

There’s good news and bad news. The good news is that you can get the spark back! The bad news is you and your significant other will have to do some work to get there. But if you knew much about relationships, you would know that every relationship takes some work.



Here are some signs that your relationship has gotten a little, ahem, boring:

- You stop taking care of your appearance. (Come on ladies, we’ve probably all been guilty of this at one time or another. You used to make yourself gorgeous for your man, even if you were just hanging out at his place watching a movie. Now, you go there in sweats with no make-up and your hair pulled back. You know what I’m talking about!)

- You don’t care to listen to them or you find yourself tuning them out. (“I think that shirt was still on sale…” “It’s decided, I am going to go get that new handbag after work tomorrow.” – While the whole time, he is trying to explain to you that his day at work was not so great and he would just like to relax with YOU.)

- You no longer initiate romance. (Romance, shmomance… what even IS romance?)

- You no longer feel it is worth it to do unexpected, nice things for your significant other. (He doesn’t do it for you, so why should you do it for him? Maybe he stopped because YOU did.)

These are the most common ones that I can think of and I’m sure you can think of more that are unique to your dying relationship. If you want to feel those butterflies every time you see him or you want to get shivers whenever he kisses your neck, the both of you have to make a choice and actually want to do the work to get back to that place.

A great place to start, is to remember why you fell in love in the first place. What common goal do you have that creates a strong bond between you? Here are some simple suggestions to help you get the flame burning bright again:


- Hold hands, snuggle. Have some kind of physical touch and affection towards each other that doesn't involve sex. (That can come later…)

- Actually listen. (Without letting your mind wonder.)

- Do nice things without expecting ANYTHING in return. (Even if you don’t get a thank-you. Just because you didn’t get a thank-you doesn’t mean that your significant other is not appreciative, some don’t voice those things as much as others.)

The main thing to remember is that you both have to take responsibility and initiative and it also takes time, it doesn't happen overnight and you won't magically be all better. But, by thinking of your significant other first before yourself, you’ll show them just how much you really care. If you miss the intense passion you once had as a couple then do something about it instead of moping around! Have a conversation with your significant other; they may not even know that you have been feeling this way!



Good luck :)