11 SIGNS SHE'S CHEATING ON YOU

Finding out that a girlfriend is cheating on you can be a sickening shock. There is so much press about men cheating on women, the fact that women sometimes cheat on men is unheard of. If you suspect that your girlfriend is being unfaithful, look for a combination of tell-tale signs and clues. However, keep in mind that there is no more definitive sign of cheating other than catching your girlfriend in the act.

1. She detaches herself from your family

The fact that she no longer wants to attend your family's functions or hang with your friends is one of our signs she's cheating on you. This sign may be indicative of cheater's remorse on her part, which means that she likely feels guilty about cheating. The less she immerses herself in your circles (which contain people who are painful reminders of her sins), the less mental anguish she'll have to endure.

2. She nags you incessantly

Gone are the days when the two of you could communicate with harmonious precision. Now, every sentiment you express sets her off and she finds any excuse to lash out at you.

If such an about-face sounds familiar, she may be subconsciously trying to justify her little tryst. Nagging you helps eliminate or at least ease her nagging guilt. So if she habitually begins to point out your every flaw, you may want to get to the bottom of what's really going on because it's one of our signs she's cheating on you.

3. She has a mysterious friend

A telltale sign that your woman is cheating arises when a mysterious friend inches his way into the picture. Whether it's someone she claims is a coworker or an old friend from way back, she keeps this friendship under wraps and is hesitant to share any general details about him, much less introduce you. And it doesn't take a Ph.D. to figure out why.

4. She engages in secretive behavior

Cheating girlfriends often become very guarded and cagey. Dr. Reena Sommer, a divorce and affair consultant and author of the book "The Anatomy of An Affair," observes that when cheating mates are working on a computer, they are often quick to close or change a program window whenever you approach. Similarly, Dr. Robert Huizenga, an infidelity coach quoted in an article on Womansdivorce.com, says that a cheating girlfriend may begin to delete emails from her email inbox, where before she let them accumulate. A cheating girlfriend may suddenly start taking her ringing cell phone into another room before answering it, and then delete the caller ID number once she's finished the call.

5. She deflects simple questions

You should be suspicious of your girlfriend when she refuses to answer the simplest and fairest of questions or answers questions only after repeating them back to you, which usually indicates a mind that's searching for a lie. Be wary of times when, rather than reveal that she got home at midnight, she begrudgingly asks, "Why do you want to know what time I left the coffee shop?" If she gets defensive about disclosing information that she used to volunteer without hesitation, she may be hiding something or someone and it's one of the surest sings she's cheating on you.

6. She shifts priorities away from you

If she is involved in a hot and heavy romance with someone else, you'll definitely feel a shift in her daily priorities. Suddenly, there are no more implied Sunday dates at the movies or something always comes up on dance-lesson Thursday. There is a tendency for most philanderers to schedule meetings with their new flame as often as they can, which results in a complete disregard for previous engagements.

7. She puts more effort into looking sexy

You may like her just the way she is, but that won't stop her from trying to dazzle her new fling. Just as you tried to impress each other at the beginning of your relationship, she'll try to impress her new flame with a sudden urge to improve her style, change her makeup and alter her physical appearance for the new man in her life. So, while her desire to look sexier is one thing, not caring about your opinion on the matter is quite another.

8. She becomes autonomous

One of the biggest signs she's cheating on you is her breaking away from your little two-person unit to become more autonomous. She has dropped "we" from her vocabulary in favor of "I." Moreover, she does more things on her own and stops consulting you about future plans. In short, she conducts herself in ways that hint that she no longer needs you to hold her hand. Whether she's hoping you'll leave her or she's simply looking for more time to lead her "double life," it's safe to conclude that she wants you out of the picture -- she just can't build up the nerve to leave you.

9. She has no interest in sex with you

When your relationship was new, the two of your were full of passion and open to spontaneous lovemaking. Now it's all a bit iffy, whereby you're rarely hitting the sheets and you're only doing so if and when she feels like it.

On a slightly more ego-bashing note, she may suddenly become bored by your performance and appear to be thinking about someone else when you do make love. Cheating may be wrong, but you can't deny that unlawful sex is usually more exhilarating. So, if you can no longer satisfy her sexually, someone else may be rubbing her the right way.

10. She's secretive about her schedule

She may claim to no longer have time for any extracurricular activities with you, yet she has one foot out the door the minute one of her girlfriends calls. Either that or she has been "going away on business" one too many times. And when she does leave, her whereabouts are sketchy at best and you are somehow always the last to know.

Disclosing her itinerary to you at the last minute and overlooking your plans in the process can mean many things, one of which isn't that she's forgetting, but rather leaving you out.

11. You become irrelevant

What could be worse than a girlfriend who nags you about absolutely everything? How about one who stops noticing that you're even alive? Just as No. 9 on our list of signs she's cheating on you is a possibility (she nags you incessantly), the opposite could be yet another clue of your loves cheating ways.

All at once, she doesn't care if you don't want to go to the ballet with her; she'll just find somebody else with whom to go. And whatever opinion you may have, be it about how she looks or how you're feeling, is met with a tepid response. In other words, she doesn't place the same importance on what you think and what you do as she once did, especially on things that directly affect the relationship.

NB: More importantly, don't let what may just be a bad case of jealousy taint your perception of her. Reading her the wrong way or jumping to conclusions can permanently sever a relationship; get all the facts before you confront her.

Nigeria Marked Her 52 Years As An Independent Country. (Oct. 1st) Celebrating Failure And Disappointments.

Yesterday, Nigeria marked her 52 years as an Independent country (October 1st). Is there any reason or reasons for Nigeria to celebrate? Do we have any reason to cut cake in the guise of celebrating our independence? Do we celebrate to remember when Britain handed over a country which foundation was not properly laid? Do we suppose to pop Campaign to celebrate Nigeria at 52? Do we suppose to roll out our drums to beat in celebration of Nigeria?

Why do we celebrate? We celebrate for accomplishments. We celebrate when we have recorded some element of successes in our endeavors. Nobody celebrates failures. It is unheard of for a couple who have been married for 10 years without children to celebrate their marriage anniversary. Success has many relations while failure is an orphan. Nigeria has no reason to mark 52 years of independence with pomp and pageantry. There are many reasons we should not celebrate; rather we should be in a sober reflection because our nation is a state of flux. How can we celebrate when?

REASONS NOT TO CELEBRATE IT:

• There is no stability in power supply
• Our educational system is in total mess such that our youths cannot get admission without sorting out and the affluence sends their children to schools in Ghana and Benin Republic
• Our leaders sit by and watch part of our land (Bakassi) being ceded to Cameroon without a fight
• Our hospitals are in disarray, such that the wife of our President could be in German hospital
• Our roads are in dilapidated situation from west to east, north to south-south
• Our leaders make more money than Nigeria through corrupt practices
• We cannot produce our fuel for local consumption, no functional refineries 
• Boko haram are harassing everybody, bombing Christians and even asking our own President to turn to Islam or be forced out of office. 
• Kidnappings of Nigerians and foreigners have become the order of the day
• We cannot conduct free and fair election without killings
• Armed robbers have taken over the land
• There are no aircrafts to fly over Nigeria such that passengers have to queue up for flight tickets and some flight cancellations. We depend on foreign airlines.
• An average Nigerian cannot afford to feed 3 square meals a day

If you look at the above parameters, you will agree with me that there is no reason we should cut cakes as it was done here by the President and some of his guests yesterday. It shows that we are celebrating failure and disappointments. Nigeria is in total comatose. Our president can praise himself to the high heaven, but the truth is that we are living in the past glory, if we have ever had one before. Our so called leaders have destroyed this nation. Our founding fathers like Zik, Awo, Balewa, Belo, Okpara etc had a very good intention for this nation, but since the incursion of the military into politics, our leaders lost focus, vision and bravery to tackle the problems of this country. 

As it is now, we have nothing to celebrate. I have seen nothing happening in this country that could motivate one to celebrate our Independence. Those men and women born the same time Nigeria got independence but are yet to stand on their feet will think twice about the whole issue of celebrating with Nigeria, because the country has failed them. Those children of independence should be those who should be holding the Green White Green flag of Nigeria in both hands, but I can tell you that such group does not even want to be reminded of Nigeria.

The Most Important Questions to Ask Before You Get Married

Sometimes love just isn't enough to keep a couple together. Don't get married without knowing your future spouse's thoughts on these issues that can kill a marriage. So Don't make that mistake because, Compromise is usually not an option if the two of you disagree on these issues that can be deal breakers.

1. Do you want to have children?

It is a huge red flag in your relationship if you and your future spouse can not agree on whether to have children or not.

Thinking that you can deal with this issue later in your marriage is a mistake.

Making a decision to have a baby when one parent doesn't want to have children is not fair to the child or to your marriage.

2. Can we talk about money?

The mechanics of how the two of you will handle your finances really isn't the issue. Many couples in successful marriages have separate checking accounts and many couples in successful marriages have one account.

The issue is whether or not the two of you can calmly and practically talk about money.

If how your money is spent, or saved, or not spent is an issue before you get married, it will be an even bigger issue after your wedding.

If your future spouse doesn't want to talk about money, or doesn't think talking about money is important, postpone your wedding until this issue is solved.

3. How much time will we spend with our in-laws?

They may be wonderful people who love you both, but your in-laws should not be allowed to interfere in your marriage relationship.

If either one of you will not set boundaries with your own parents when it comes to visits, phone calls, finances, children, etc., the problem with your in-laws will only worsen.



4. Will you clean the toilet?
If the answer is "no" or "why should I?" or "Isn't that your job?", you have several options.

• You can hire someone to do the chores that neither of you wants to do.
• You can accept that you will be doing 90% of the chores around the house.
• You can discuss the importance of sharing the household chores together.

If none of these options work out, call off the wedding. This is another one of those issues that won't suddenly get better after you sign the marriage license.

5. Can we talk about sex?

There is no way of predicting the future when it comes to an individual's sexual libido.

However, if the two of you are already having sexual issues, you shouldn't get married until the issues are settled.

Differences in sexual frequency, desire, preferences, fantasies, masturbation, pornography, expectations, etc. will tear the two of you apart. If you and your partner are unable to talk about the issues, or if your future spouse doesn't see any real problem, or doesn't want to talk about sex with you, cancel the wedding.

6. How do you want to spend our days off?

The answer to this question will reveal several things.

• How your future spouse likes to spend free time.
• The value your future spouse places on having fun together.
• Whether or not you will come first before work.

Balancing work and fun and family time and personal time is not easy.

Without talking about the time aspect of your life together, you may find yourself grumbling because your spouse is spending what you consider to be too much time with old friends and extended family, or on hobbies, sports, the computer, etc.

Living a balanced life together will create the time you both need, individually and together, for vacations, quiet time, and fun time.

7. How often do you drink?

The answer to this question, or to questions about smoking cigarettes or using drugs, will reveal whether or not your future spouse has a potential addiction problem which could end up not only threatening your marriage but could also put you in legal and financial jeopardy.

8. Have you ever hit someone?

If your future spouse has anger management issues, or tries to control who you see and what you do, or is causing you to walk on egg shells, cancel your wedding.

These are signs of a potentially abusive personality. Don't think you can "save" him or her. You can't. This is a problem that needs professional counseling.

9. Do you think it is important to be faithful to one another?

Open marriage and swinging is okay for some married couples, but most want and prefer a monogamous relationship. If your future spouse and you have differing opinions on what cheating is or isn't, don't get married until this issue has been discussed.

10. What do you think we'll be doing in thirty or forty years?

If your future spouse can't answer this or won't answer this, then the two of you need to talk about long-lasting marriage expectations.

Why marry someone who doesn't think your marriage will last?

HAPPY 31ST BIRTHDAY BEY

One of the greatest performers + singers of all time, turns 31 today.Happy Birthday Beyoncé! 

Michael Clarke Duncan of ‘Green Mile’ fame dies at 54

Michael Clarke Duncan, the hulking, prolific character actor whose dozens of films included an Oscar-nominated performance as a death row inmate in "The Green Mile" and such other box office hits as "Armageddon," ''Planet of the Apes" and "Kung Fu Panda," is dead at age 54.

Clarke died (Sept. 3rd) Monday morning at Cedars-Sinai Medical Center in Los Angeles, where he was being treated for a heart attack, said his fiancée, reality TV personality Rev. Omarosa Manigault, in a statement released by publicist Joy Fehily.

The muscular, 6-foot-4 (1.96 meter) Duncan, a former bodyguard who turned to acting in his 30s, "suffered a myocardial infarction on July 13 and never fully recovered," the statement said. "Manigault is grateful for all of your prayers and asks for privacy at this time. Celebrations of his life, both private and public, will be announced at a later date."

Michael Clarke Duncan features in movies like >>>  Criminal Empire for Dummy's (coming out in 2013)   Redemption Road (2010)

Cross (2011 Video)  Street Fighter: The Legend of Chun-Li (2009)  The Slammin' Salmon (2009) And Many more.

15 Ways To Keep Relationship Working

1) Love Each Other

2) Don't Lie

3) Keep Communication Open

4) Stay Sweet 

5) When You Get Hurt Just forgive and Forget

6) Never Talk About Break- Ups

7) Never Say It's Okay Even When It's Not

8) Forget About "Pride"

9) Don't Compare Your Past With Your Present

10) Don't Talk About Your Stupid Ex's

11) Give And Take Process 

12) Beware Of His/Her Feelings

13) If You Say Sorry Mean It

14) When You Had A Fight, Don't Let The Day Pass

15) Don't Be the Perfect One, Be The Right One

Top 23 Things That Men Do Which Turn Women Off

There are times men wonder why they can't a get second date, keep a girlfriend, or get a woman's phone number. There are things women are willing to put up with, but they do have their limits. Below are 23 humorous and gross things men do to turn women off.

#1 Fur coats

It's hard to believe that men still wear fur coats. Hip Hop celebrities can barely pull this look off. Don't try it at home. If you insist on wearing a fur coat when you pick up your date, don't be surprised when she slams the door in your face without saying a word.

#2 Saggy jeans

Women don't want to see your underwear or boxers. Saggy jeans are sloppy and played out. Get a belt.

#3 Ordering fruity beverages.

If you're a couple on a tropical island and you ordered a pina colada that's fine. Ordering a seabreeze while on a first date might raise some eyebrows. Perception is key. Ordering fruity drinks gives the impression that you are wimpy and not enough of a man. After all, sissy boys can't handle their liquor. Order a jack and coke and man up.

#4 Gawking at every woman on the street.

Yes, we know men are wired to do it. However, you don't have to do it every two blocks. Do this too often and your date will think you're a dog. Why bother dating a man if you or any other woman will never be enough for him? Women cut their losses as soon as they see this warning sign. If you want a woman to stick around, pull yourself together and get your libido under control.

#5 Being too friendly with the waitress.

Women don't mind you being nice to a waitress, but giving too much attention might give us the wrong idea, especially on the first date. Be friendly just don't over do it.

#6 Being rude to a waitress.

Okay, your steak is too salty. That is no reason to cuss out the waitress. She didn't cook it. Outlandish behavior like this will definitely turn a woman off. It also gives the impression that you have a short fuse. Keep your cool over little things.

#7 Acting like Mr. Know-It-All.

There is nothing worse than talking to a man who thinks he is the smartest person in the room. Women like smart men, but not know-it-alls who dominate the conversation with his vast so-called knowledge. Open your mind to let other opinions and theories flow.

#8 Being a big fan of a boy band.

It's okay to like music by a boy band. What is not okay is to be obsessed with them. For instance, A friend of mine met a guy a few years ago. They dated for a couple of weeks. He was nice and a pretty too. One night, She went to his apartment. He cut on the light and she was accosted with N Sync posters. The posters were all over his living room and hallway walls. Then, he had the nerve to take her on a tour of his place. When he opened the bedroom door N Sync posters were everywhere. That wasn't the worst of it. He had a poster of Joey Fatone, member of N Sync, taped on the ceiling above his bed. To make a long story short they broke up.

#9 Being inconsiderate.

No matter how independent women have become they still like it when men open the door for them. The one thing I always hear on bad date stories from my friends is how he wouldn't open the door for her. Women still like it when you bring them flowers. You don't have to spend hundreds of dollars. You can get a cheap bouquet of flowers at Wal-Mart for $10.99. Women love the gesture. Be a gentleman. Say thank you and don't use foul language.

#10 Lying

A lot of guys in the world have made lying a second language and a sport. Women still hate it. If you don't want to see us anymore just say it. If you don't want to go to the opera because you want to hang out with the boys, just say it. You think women will get mad over the truth. It's nothing compared to how mad we'll get when we find out you are a consistent liar. Granted, some women put up with it for a while, but it gets old.

#11 Video game obsession.

There is nothing wrong with a grown man playing video games. Women play video games, too. However, it is different when it becomes an obsession. I had a friend who dated a guy who was video game obsessed. If that wasn't bad enough, his friends were video game obsessed. No matter what time of the day she would go over to her boyfriend's apartment him and his friends were playing video games. If there weren't a pack of gamers at the apartment he would be playing by himself. It got to the point that they couldn't go anywhere together because he was busy playing video games. After three months of this, she got fed-up and stopped seeing him. The real shock is that this clueless man couldn't understand why she broke up with him. She flat out told him it was because he became too obsessed with video games. He couldn't understand what she meant.

Don't let video games control you. It is okay as something different to do, but don't take it to far. Some women won't date guys who play video games. They get the impression that the guy is immature.

#12 Saying something stupid.

Considering the fact that I've seen this "don't" rule all over television I can't believe it is still a problem. Guys don't say anything stupid. Asking if a woman has PMS, asking what kind of cartoons do we like, and asking about a woman's sexual past are all examples of saying something stupid.

#13 Not kissing a woman enough.

Women like being kissed. We can't help it. We understand that men are not always big with the PDAs, but you need to kiss us at the appropriate time. Women like being kissed during a romantic evening at home and while having sex. Some of my male friends have told me they don't like kissing a woman too much because it's too personal. Well getting into a woman's pants is personal....., but that doesn't stop you from having sex, right?

#14 Jealousy

I am going to let the secret out. Sometimes women like it when men get jealous. The narrowing of your eyes and the possessive way you put your arm around us is just cute. Since, men don't always express how they feel about the woman in his life we have to latch on to the non-verbal things you say. This action says she's with me, I want you, and I am not sharing you.

However, we don't like it when jealousy goes overboard. The last thing a woman wants to see is a bar room brawl because her boyfriend didn't like the way some drunk guy was looking at her. Women hate it when you are overly jealous of their guy friends. I have a friend whose husband was so obsessively jealous about her that he got mad one time because she crossed her legs in public. He said, "Un-cross your legs! I don't want everyone to see what I got!" Chill, dude. Jealousy makes you look like an uncontrolled monster.

#15 Sloppy drunkenness
It is bad taste to get smashed on a date, especially a first date. What was supposed to be a lovely evening is now a babysitting job for your date. Do this and you definitely won't get a second date. Have a minimum of two drinks. If you can't hold your liquor, then drink water.

#16 Using dumb pick up lines.

Honestly guys, would you go out with a woman who said, "Roses are red, violets are blue. I'm really horny let's go and screw." No? Then, why do you expect women to go out with you when you say it? For the love of Pete, let go of the stinking pick up lines. They don't get you a date or a woman's phone number. However, they might work to get a drink or a slap in the face. If you like us, then approach us like you have some sense. Try this instead, "Hi, how are you? My name is (insert name). What's yours?"

#17 Asking for sex on the first introduction.
Women know men like sex, but let us get comfortable before you proposition us. Coming off as a horny toad is a REAL TURN OFF.

#18 Constantly talking about your ex.

This has been mentioned so many times on television and in love advice columns that it's hard to believe it is still an issue. Stop talking about your ex. Women don't want to hear you go on and on about your ex-girlfriend or ex-wife.You will talk yourself right out of something good.

#19 Dirty fingernails

Having dirty fingernails is a real turn off to women. Women don't want you rubbing your hands through their hair with those dirty things. We rather see a man get a manicure, than to see a man with dirty nasty fingernails. Too macho to get a manicure? Buy a nail brush, it only cost three dollars.

#20 Asking, "Why are you single?"

When I was in middle school, my teacher told me there was no such thing as a stupid question. Well, she was wrong. This question is so stupid and insulting that it is in a class by itself. Fellas, don't ask this, period. This question is so stupid that I'm not going to type anything else about it.

#21 Having an un-kept bathroom.

If you are inviting a woman over, clean your bathroom. Women don't expect to see your bathroom decked out Martha Stewart style, but we do expect it be clean. Examples of having a nasty bathroom are dirty towels in the floor, no toilet paper on the roll, stained toilet seat, toothpaste on the mirror, no hand soap, no hand towels, and a soap scum shower curtain.

#22 Hocking loogies and launching snot rockets.

What in the blue h#ll is wrong with men who do this? This is not attractive. This is nasty, gross, despicable, and stomach turning. Did I mention nasty? Bad enough, that you hock loogies, now you've come up with snot rockets. For the love of Ray J, Pete, God, and everything holy take a Claritin and use a tissue. D#mn!

#23 Man boobs

Ewww and double ewww. No woman wants to date a man with breasts, I'm sorry. When women see men with bigger breast than them it freaks and grosses them out. Most women don't mind men being overweight, but we draw the line at man boobs. Do you want your woman going to Victoria's Secret to buy you a bra? Or do you want her to buy something for herself that you will hopefully see? Man boobs are so grotesque that some women are willing to forgive men who've had plastic surgery to have them removed. Don't want surgery? Do some push-ups or some other type of chest exercises; just get rid of those things!

Look, women don't expect men to be perfect. All of us have baggage and habits. However, lets not get carried away. The 23 offenses mentioned in this are guaranteed to keep a man lonely. Do leave your comment and share it.... THANKS :)